May 14, 2010
To Spank or NOT to Spank that is the question?
This is going to hurt me more than it's going hurt you!
Don't we teach our children that hitting is wrong. You do not say to your children "hitting is right". Most of us are not 'in favor' of hitting children. However, many parents who spank behave as if it is a good thing to do. You can't really believe that it's a good thing to hit people.
I was spanked as a child and believe me I was a master of testing boundaries but each of us kids knew how to earn a spanking and how to avoid one, but at the end of the day they were painful. I never really understood the purpose of the spankings because in my mind I would weigh out the consequences of doing something wrong with whether or not I'd get a spanking for it. So if staying 15 minutes longer at my friends house to play kickball would result in a spanking I'd take the extra 15 minutes every time. Spanking me didn't teach me a lesson it just taught me to be fearful of my dad and his belt.
When I met my husband we talked for hours about our childhoods, about how we would parent our children. When I heard the words "my kids are getting whippings" come out my soon to be husbands mouth I almost stopped talking to him. I knew if we continued in our relationship and went on to have children at some point in raising children we would disagree on how to discipline them.
Well 9 years into parenting and SPANKING was brought into our lives. Last night my daughter was having a major temper tantrum and I was trying everything I could to calm her down when out of her mouth she screamed SHUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT UP! I've never seen my husband jumped off the couch that quick. Sure enough he took her to her room and spanked her. I sat here pretty much in disbelief. I do not want to spank our kids, and I WILL not spank our kids. I don't agree with spankings-PERIOD!
I heard my husband tell my daughter before he deploys her and her brother will have respect for your mother. You will listen and not run your mouth. But seriously, this is going to happen by hitting them?
The Bible Says:
"He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him correcteth him betimes" (Proverbs 13:24) and "Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell." (Proverbs 23:13-14)
This is 2010, we don't live in biblical times any longer. I have never agreed with this statement. Do you agree with it?
To Spank or not to spank is every parents dilemma, but I'm on a mission now to make our home a NO HIT ZONE and figure out something that will make my children listen to us without HITTING them!
We never spanked our now 18 year old and she turned out wonderful. I know it can be done I just have to figure out how.